Ep 98: Should my child see a therapist with Dr. Cheng Qian

Host: Cindy Hovington

GUEST: Dr. Cheng Qian

Dr. Cheng Qian holds a doctorate in clinical psychology from the PGSP-Stanford Psy.D. Consortium and a masters in education from the Harvard Graduate School of Education. She is currently completing her postdoctoral fellowship at Cincinnati Children’s Hospital Medical Center and will soon be transitioning into her new role as an Assistant Professor of Psychiatry and Pediatrics at the University of California, San Francisco. Dr. Qian specializes in the diagnostic evaluation and treatment of young children and is passionate about supporting families from diverse backgrounds. In her free time, Dr. Qian shares tidbits on child development and mental health through her instagram account.

Summary

In today’s episode we are joined by Dr. Cheng Qian, Stanford & Harvard trained Clinical Psychologist. We speak about all things difficult behaviors. Specifically Dr. Qian gives useful, effective and simple tips & tricks to deal with your child’s difficult behaviors. Here’s what we talked about:

• 4:03 – When to seek professional help for tantrums

• 6:47 – What can a parent expect in a therapist’s office

• 10:32 – How do we teach our kids how to comply or listen

• 13:25 – How to deal with a child who won’t clean up their playroom, ever

• 16:51 – How to use praise and rewards in an effective way

• 19:57 – How to deal with biting, hitting, yelling and throwing things depending on your child’s age

• 25:35 – The proper way to ignore your child’s behaviour

• 27:19 – What to do after a child comes out of a tantrum

• 28:39 – How do emotions and emotion regulation skills play into difficult situations

• 33:54 – Once you notice a pattern in your child’s misbehaving, how do you implement change

• 36:41 – Great tips for bedtime

• 40:57 – How to differentiate impulsivity and defiance

• 42:35 – How to choose a child therapist or psychologist

• 49:40 – What if I’m doing the work, but my child’s tantrums are getting worse

• 51:04 – What is my role as a parent in my child’s tantrums

• 52:41 – What is turtle time to calm down?

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